Henszey - July 15, 2014
Guest Blogger: Robert Biswas-Diener
Today I have the extreme fortune of hosting guest blogger Robert Biswas-Diener. I love this man's professional work and trajectory and I know exactly why: He's a fellow adventurer. I lived in Norway; he got his PhD in Norway. I've been to Tanzania to climb Mt Kilimanjaro; he's been to Tanzania to do research with the Maasai warriors. He loves making connections between research and real life problems; I have real life problems.
And craziest of all: He lives in Milwaukie, Oregon; I live in Milwaukee, Wisconsin.
Robert, thank you for being my guest blogger!
Robert is a postiive psychologist, coach, entrepreneur, researcher, and consultant who owns Positive Acorn, a coach training organization. He's "a leading authority on positive psychology coaching and widely recognized as a major pioneering voice in this field." (from positiveacorn.com)
Are You Authentic?
By Robert Biswas-Diener
There is nothing as annoying in the world as a person who comes across as fake. Someone who seems too bubbly, smiles too much, or who appears to play on your sympathies. Such artifice actually taxes your personal resources because in-authenticity activates your psychological lie detection system.
People lie for all sorts of reasons. At one end of the scale there are whoppers such as embezzling from work and marital infidelity. At the other end their are white lies such as flattery or exaggeration.
Mostly, people are dishonest for personal gain but there are also less overtly selfish reasons to lie. People tend to fudge the truth when they are tired because it can be a means of conserving resources. They are also more likely to be dishonest if others around them are due to the natural desire for acceptance and belonging.